Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Cute as a Cupcake


This adorable Lieber Strawberry Cupcake Clutch looks good enough to eat! Or gaze at with a stupefied grin for a little while ;)

You can pay $4,295 for this sweet treat, or borrow it from Bag, Borrow or Steal for $136 per week.

Claim to fame: The clutch was featured in the Sex and the City movie - in the "before the wedding" scene.

Friday, June 13, 2008

$7,000 for a Future

Cleaning out my inbox tonight - deleting messages as far back as 2002. I found this little something I wrote in 2004 and thought I would post it.

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"$7,000 for a Future"

It was a Tuesday in the spring of 2000. I was 25 and my life was at a standstill. I was tired of being a receptionist, working at temporary jobs answering phones, filing, and sorting mail. I was looking in the classifieds for a new job when a large square ad at the top of the page caught my eye. The ad was for Platt College, a design school in Newport Beach. The wheels in my head started to turn.

I wanted a creative job, something more fulfilling than office work. I wanted to eventually work for a magazine, and going into graphic design could be a back door into writing, I summized. I called right away and made a 1 p.m. appointment that day to visit an admissions counselor.

The recruiter was perfect for her job. She was a personable, upbeat lady - the type of person you want go to lunch with and chat with, in hopes you'll catch whatever it is she's got. After talking with her and taking a tour of the school, I decided going to Platt was the right next step in my life, and I signed up for the one-year program on the spot, and then signed papers for about $7,000 worth of loans.

Classes were held from 6-10 p.m. Monday through Thursday. At the first meeting, we got our art kits: a tackle box-looking bin filled with graphic arts pencils, tools, erasers, markers, and other tools. It felt like the first day of kindergarten... It was great.

Pinned up above the chalk boards in the front of the room was student artwork - great art work that was both inspiring and intimidating. I hoped I could rise to the challenge. I am not a natural artist, but I wanted to create the art projects I saw when I closed my eyes. I hoped I could.

My first semester was with graphic artist Tony Colombini, the principal of Corner, a design firm in Costa Mesa. His teaching style was like comedy traffic school - very laid back and personable, with a goofy yet entertaining sense of humor and an endearing laugh. He brought the world of graphic arts alive and within our grasp - form and color and perspective. We all worked diligently hunched over our green design tables, tracing, drawing, coloring or stipling (creating images with dots).

The room was filled with 25 or students. I remember most of the faces, it's names I don't remember. Many left or were ahead of us, but there was a core group of us - seven or so of us who started together and became a little group.

During our nightly 30-minute break, we would stroll over to the nearby Deitrich's for coffee, and sit around at the outside tables and talk. What we talked about I can't remember - movies, music, life - whatever. I loved it. It was the first time I belonged to anything like that in a long time. I didn't have to struggle or try. It was a nice feeling. If break had started and I was lagging, they waited for me. I was so used to just being left behind. But they didn't leave. They waited.

We were an interesting, diverse bunch - a group brought together by our desire to create art, and brought together outside of it by our different personalities that all just seemed to click somehow.

Sitting around the two black rod iron tables dragged from their places to be closer together, there's Yen, a designer best known in class for his simple, chic monocolor designs. He is now a designer at the Cannery firm in the heart of Hollywood, at a building next to the El Capitan Theatre at Hollywood and Vine, and making mega-bucks. He wears funky looking Nike's and loves pug dogs. He recently got married to his long time girlfriend, Tess.

And there's Matt, a student whose work I don't remember, but who was and is a friend, who flirted relentless with me until the last time I talked to him before I got married. We are friends again, see each other now and then.

And ah, Nate, a tattooed bad boy slightly younger than me, who had the whole rock-a-billy thing going on, drove a hot classic car, had a longtime on-again off-again girlfriend (a black-haired, red-lipped beauty), and played upright bass in a band. He talked openly about how much he loved sex, and while at school got a job at a porn store. Red flags waved wildly all around him, but he gave this (then virgin) girl a hot, fluttery feeling, and I flirted with the thought, that if the chance ever presented itself, he could me take over to the dark side with him, if only for a moment.

Joel was a professional skater, a nice clean-cut guy who drove from San Clemente where he lived with his cute but air-headed girlfriend to Newport Beach every night so he could one day be a designer for a skateboarding magazine.

And Kelly, a girl with short black-bobbed hair, who had a hard edge that turned me off at first.I thought she was harsh, boorish, rude. But to get to know her, she was a caring person, a gentle personality with a heartfelt laugh. She was beautiful, with china doll skin and makeup to match, and always looked neat and fashionable, even if was wearing a t-shirt, jeans and converse. You knows those types? I don't know how they do it. I am the type who without fail has a stain on my shirt by lunch.

Kelly, who was about 30 then, had recently graduated accounting school, and decided crunching numbers was much too dry. While going to Platt, she worked as a human resources assistant at an internet certification company in Santa Ana called Prosoft Training.

She met a guy on-line and fell in love. The second time they saw each other, they married at a drive-thru chapel in Vegas. Crazy kids. She quit Platt to join her new husband but before she left, she referred me for her job at human resources assistant.I interviewed with her boss, Anna, who I instantly thought was terrific, and got the job - with full benefits and making the most I had ever made in my life!

But I didn't see Platt to the end -- I left just a few weeks shy of graduating. I realized that while I loved art, someone else needed to create it. And after realizing this, I just couldn't endure the schedule anymore. I wanted to write out all of my ideas, and the computer programs didn't stick in my brain as well as I hoped. Yen, who was a natural, had to tutor me so I could move on to the last semester. It was a difficult and costly decision - $7,000 down the drain I thought. But the hardest part was saying goodbye to the break bunch.

Right before I left school, I started a copywriting internship for Tony, and from there met his creative coach, RaShelle Westcott, and started writing for her, bartering coaching for writing. She helped me learn to write down my goals and not be afraid to ask for what I want. I continued to take on writing jobs with other designers, making pennies but gaining valuable experience and a portfolio of writing samples.


Fast-forward about two and a half years...

Prosoft is close to closing its doors. I'd be getting laid off soon but couldn't bear getting yet another job where I'm not writing.

Providence steps in - in the form of a mass e-mail sent to Prosoft folks. On the list of e-mail addresses, I noticed that a laid-off Prosoft employee, an editor named Tom Graves, had an Orange County Register e-mail address. I emailed Tom and told him how jealous I was he worked at the Register. What a dream come true that would be, I told him.

A few weeks later, he emailed me about a news assistant position that was open at the Fountain Valley bureau. I applied, faxed my writing samples to editor Iris Yokoi, and was hired several weeks later - over the phone!

Two other news assistants had been hired, but for whatever reason, couldn't take the job. That's because it was meant to be mine. I worked part-time at the Register and part-time at Prosoft until I was laid off from there in October, 2003. (I'm writing for about four community papers - and it's so amazing to see my work in print!)

At the time I started my job at the Register, I had been married for one month and had an 11-month old son, Nathan. Several months later, Kelly got pregnant and then separated from her husband who didn't want to be a father. We were friends again - in the same place in our lives, so different than when we had met at school. We talk about being a mom and help each other through things. Her son is now one. Nathan is almost two, and we are so excited that they can play and be friends.

I look back on the crazy day when I randomly picked up the paper and impulsively signed up for design school. I am still paying off $7,000 worth of loans and couldn't design anything if my life depended on it. But I look at where that experience has brought me, and all the people I met through it. It makes it all worth it.

And I realized that while it may take a while to see the purpose in some things, nothing in life happens by accident.

Everything happens for a reason. Everything has its purpose. And that is beautiful.

Monday, June 9, 2008

The Man Haters Club

So a girlfriend of mine recently joined the ephemeral "Man Haters Club." You know the one.

We were chatting it up last night all about the ridiculousness of the male sector, getting some good laughs (and punches and jabs) in.

In case you're wondering, girls join this club because we fall for the wrong guys. The guys who stand us up. The ones who never call or email back. Or their hearts are cold and black like the Grinch. The ones who say they want a someone real but really just want to bang the girls from the pages of Maxim. The ones who toy with our hearts like we're yo-yo's.

We know better than to lump all guys in one batch. There are some good ones out there, we know. I hope to become a member of the "I've Found True, Real, Madly In, For Keeps Love" club one day.

I know my friend does too.

Monday, June 2, 2008

And the pendulum swings...

I’m going through a lot of changes right now.
A lot of gains and losses.
People coming in my life, and leaving it.
Some are easy come, easy go.
Others - hurt.

It's like a pendulum, my mom told me yesterday.
Swaying from one extreme to the other.
I’m just trying to find my center.
To find my true north.
I heard that line in a movie -- I'm sure you know it.

I'm finding out what I really want in life.
I know what I want.
It's figuring out how to live life until I find it...
Or it comes to me.

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I think the best thing to do is simply stop talking.
To not figure out life with words gushing out of my mouth like a spigot before my brain and heart have had a chance to catch up, and filter out.

I can be so black and white. Reign myself in so hard that I buck.

The point of this new chapter of my life is to spread my wings and explore all that life has for me.
Not to box myself in, or cage myself up...

There’s so much life to live.
I want to live a full life.
An honest life. A happy life.
And I don't want to hurt others as I live it.

Monday, May 26, 2008

Remember

(Yes, three blog posts in one day. I've been neglecting my post, and making up for lost time)

Today is Memorial Day. It's a day to stop and think about these young guys in their 20s who are dying for the cause over in Iraq - whether or not you agree with the war. Their young lives are over. It's a chilling realization.

I also think about my great-uncle Tom, who died as a young officer during World War II. I never got to meet him, obviously, but I got to visit the monument erected in his honor in the French village of Wissous, just outside of Paris.

His aircraft underwent enemy fire and went down over the village, and the pilot steered the plane away from the church and crashed into a wall instead. It was a Sunday morning, and the entire village would have been killed had the plane crashed into the church. The villagers streamed out of the church, I am told, to see what happened. My great-uncle was shot by German artillery as he jumped from the plane. He never had a chance. The villagers thoughtfully buried the men in shallow graves until the bodies could be transported to their final resting places.

One of the villagers, who was just a child at the time, contacted my grandfather and invited him to Paris for the unveiling of the memorial. This was about 17 years ago or so. My grandfather learned French and accepted the honor on his brother's behalf, speaking fluently. (My grandfather is the smartest man I have ever known).

My grandparents made friends with several of the villagers and these are the people I was able to meet and spend the day with on my trip, which was about 13 years ago now. They showed me a model of the aircraft that went down. We visited the crash site, and I saw the church. And I saw the beautiful memorial, and traced along the letters carved in marble with my finger... WILKINS.(I'll try to scan and add some photos soon).

Losing someone you love is a wound that time can numb but can never heal, and I know my grandfather never stopped missing his brother. I often think about the cousins I would have had, and how our family would have been even fuller and happier with him there. All we have are his medals and photos, and a gorgeous oil painting of him that my grandfather painted. And now my son (Nathan Thomas) bears his name, in honor of the brother my grandfather loved so much. The war hero.

Happy Memorial Day.

What I did this summer...

I'm extremely excited about summer this year, like a kid who's antsy to get out of school. There are so many things i want to DO and experience and explore. I've been mulling this list over for weeks, and keep telling myself I need to write it down so I don't forget anything.

So here's my list:

-Angels games
-Catch up on the movies I'm told are terrific but I've never seen... (the list is way too long)
-Conquer my fear of heights... maybe.
-Music gigs with Justin, the amazing guitarist
-Cosmic bowling
-Safari or sleepover at the Wild Animal Park
-Go to the zoo by myself to sit and watch the gorillas
-Lots of walks on the beach
-Lay out on the beach and work on a good tan
-Go swimming
-Teach the boys how to surf or boogie board
-Teach the boys how to skateboard
-Learn to surf
-Learn to skateboard
-Play put-put golf
-Go rollerskating (old fashioned 8-wheels)
-Regular walks to Dana Point Harbor
-Bike on the boardwalk in HB and Newport weekly
-Hike at Crystal Cove and in the back country of Laguna
-Snorkel at Catalina
-Read some really good books
-Symphony at Verizon or Hollywood Bowl
-Lots of indie rock shows
-Go on a sailboat
-See Wicked again
-Dance like a feign on the dance floor
-"Murals Under the Stars" at MOLAA in Long Beach
-Art Walk in Santa Ana
-Trip to the Getty
-Weekend (booze) cruise to Mexico with Rach
-Explore my artistic talents at Color Me Mine (haha)
-Ride roller coasters at California Adventure
-Wine tasting/beer tasting
-Learn more about cheese
-Sushi eating
-Cook my own food at one of those Thai restaurants, is it?
-Learn to cook something in my own kitchen
-Tennis
-Watch the game at a sports bar
-Kayak with Rach
-Camp out by the beach
-Star gaze
-Road trip to Santa Barbara to see Hearst Castle
-Trip to Seattle



Shana and Hdz - you are my two faithful readers ;) If you have any other fun ideas, let me know!

Monday, May 12, 2008

Jimmy Fallon taking over for Conan


I think Jimmy Fallon is so adorable. Now I get to ogle him nightly, as soon as Conan takes over for Jay. Looks like it's time to get a DVR! Read the story here.